Wednesday, June 02, 2010

Tommy The Fabric Girl

I have decided to stop blogging. It's been a long time coming and I may just get back to it after all but right now I feel like I want to. There are many reasons for this and I will state a few of them as they come to mind. It's not the blogging itself; that has never been an issue. It takes very little time and is such a habit that I probably won't know what to do when I sit down at my computer in the morning. I am even thinking of starting over and blogging and not putting my name on it and saying exactly what I want. It's a diary of sorts for me and I can go back and see what I was up to on any given day or year. I use it as a reference, a recipe book, a picture finder and the like. What I don't like about it is as follows:

*My friends do not communicate with me like they would if I didn't blog. They feel like they know what's going on without my having to tell them personally. To that I have to say that very little of what I do goes into the blog.

* I have to monitor what I say for various reasons. If I want to say fuck, I can't so as to not offend. It is very tiring to try to not offend the very few that it bothers,but, well, I feel bad that I have offended them. So, fuck fuck fuck fuck. I can't even say that someone is fat, and I gotta tell you there are a lot things that if it were indeed my diary, it would be written down. It stifles me as a person and therefore, lots of times I don't like that I am perceived differently than I actually am.

*It seems like it is no longer what I want to blog. I have so many restrictions as to who is in the blog, names, pictures, etc. that I feel hampered.

* No one hardly ever comments and I thought I didn't care but I do. I feel like if hundreds of people read the blog every day (and because I have a counter I know that they do), surely (or is that Shirley; that is what pops into my head every time I say surely - I picture cute little Shirley Temple) someone can put in a comment besides the crap attachments that I get on a more than regular basis.

Even after typing these few items, I feel like I will miss the blog terribly and if I find that I do, I will return. It's been my baby for five years. I am not proofing this because it will make me delete this and I don't want to. So in advance, I apologize for all the bad spelling and grammar (yeah, Martha, I think I started a few sentences with a preposition !!!)

Those of my friends that really know the quilter Tommy will appreciate the title of this entry.

52 comments:

Anonymous said...

A couple of years ago I found your blog and eventually put it on my list of URLS that I check every day. I did so because you use your artist's "eye" for viewing life in general and then put it into words and pictures. Your writing style is engaging and you have a talent for choosing titles. I have my talents, I guess, but I am not observant and I enjoyed seeing the vibrant colors of life through your eyes. Do what you must, but you will be missed more than you know.

Debbie Jones

PS: While I was giving a birthday party for my grandson 1 1/2 years ago, I repeated one of your stories to a mom who was in attendance with her child. She laughed and said that she also followed your blog. I had found you through childhood connections. She had found you through her love of fabric art.

Ellen from BC, Canada said...

Oh Tommy, I'm so sorry to hear this. I started reading your blog about 5 years ago. I've loved reading about your work, friends, crazy parties and golf games and of course Bella. I admit it, I've been a lurker, never a commenter. I didn't even think that you'd want to read any comments from me (maybe it's that too polite Canadian thing?). Anyway, here's my first comment on your blog, and hopefully not the last time I get the chance. Take a break, reconnect with real friends, and maybe come back in a different format. Thanks for bringing a lot of enjoyment, and I will really miss reading your blog.

Aida said...

I too am a lurker--and I love your perspective. I live in Washington State but grew up in Florida--so I love all your Fla. stuff as well as your quilts, etc. and we are the same age. I understand though as I have quit blogging myself--I found I had to edit my thoughts too much. I too will really miss reading your blog.

Anonymous said...

Boo Hoo...but I understand.
xxx

Anonymous said...

I just tried to leave you a long comment and it went somewhere out there??? I'll miss my daily update of what's happening in your world, but we'll talk on the phone instead!!
Pjn

irene A said...

Your vision and insite will be missed. I am one of the lukers. I use your work as inspiration of what I hope to be someday. If you reconsider I will be here ready and waiting.

Robbie said...

Golly...I do check you blog SEVERAL times a week (wish you had 'followers' set up!). I would miss reading your posts and seeing how Bella is doing!! Hope you get over this soon and get back to it!

vivian said...

tommy-I'm a lurker too! Loved reading about your adventures and Bella! I understand where you are coming from. I have deleted many posts because I thought they would offend someone! Your post is making me question why I monitor my posts so closely. This is me -with all my warts! Good luck with your blog vacation!

Irene said...

As I've told you before, your's is the first blog I read every day and one of the first I discovered so you will be sorely missed. I love your sense of humour but I completely understand about not being able to say what you really want - I remember the flak you took over that ladies on the beach picture. What you should have done is just told them all to fuck off :-)

Barbara Strobel Lardon said...

Do what you must....but you will be missed. Time has kept me from commenting all the time but I always enjoyed what you create and love following all your adventures.

Perhaps a look at what you got out of blogging is the better way to go. New friends made, venting about a subject with or without using the "F" bomb, clarity on a quilt just by posting about it.

I hope you come back.

Anonymous said...

I really enjoy your blog and I'm sorry to see it end. I learned so many cooking tips and recipes from you! I'm not a quilter - I'm a weaver - but I enjoyed seeing your creative process and your color ideas. Thanks for keeping it up this long and giving me the pleasure of your company every day!
Randi

Ursula said...

Your blog will be missed. I have yours and Melody's
in my "fav" folder that I made on Google Reader.

Corky said...

Well, fuck, this fat girl will miss your blog! LOL - I would occasionally comment on your posts but understand how you feel about comments because I don't get many on my blog entries.

I'll keep checking just in case. Thanks for keeping us entertained all this time.

Will you at least come back and post photos of this year's pillows? I always look forward to the unveiling.

Karen said...

Tommy, I too am guilty of being a lurker. However, I hope you will reconsider ending your blogging. I really enjoy reading about all your adventures. Keep in mind, you will always have people who don't like what you have to say or how you say it...(the old, can't please all of the people all of the time), but that is true of the written word as well as the spoken word.

One more thing. I also am a quilter and don't do free motion quilting either. It is always interesting to see how you seem to work your way around that issue.

If you decide not to continue blogging, thanks for some great insights.

tresiarth said...

I am sad to see this post. I admit, I am a lurker but I have you loaded on my google reader that alerts me everytime you have a new post. I am a quilter in TX who that's about all I have in common with you. But I am drawn to your blog for your creativity, how you seem to live life and enjoy doing what you do everyday. I hope in twenty years when my girls are grown and out of my house (they are 2 and 8 months) I can sew and quilt and have as much fun as you do. I have lived vicariously through you and I am very sad to see you go. I am sorry to hear that you have gotten to a place that you feel that you have to censor yourself because I always liked the fact you seemed to live life without having to care what others think. I am sorry that pressure has come to you. Any chance you will reconsider?

Cosmos said...

I'm guilty of not commentating. I've probably left 5 comments in all the years I've been a reader.

I really enjoy your blog, I made the brussels sprout recipe at Thanksgiving and it was a great hit!

I love all the photos and the narrative, I'll miss your blog a great deal, it's one of the first I read every day.

Melody Johnson said...

If you decide to have a secret blog, I want the url.
Mel

Jeannie said...

Oh Tommy, I am go to miss you and your humor, but I understand. Please know if you change your mind, I'll be here and I don't care if you cuss or use poor grammer!;-) Hugs.

Elizabeth B said...

Another lurkster heard from. Do what's best for you and your well being, but believe me, you'll be missed --(and I hate those holier than thou folk who drag you over the coals for not being PC when you've posted a joke that offended their sensibilities... Geez, can they write or say First Amendment?). Your wit and joie de vivre have pulled me out of many a doldrum, and for that I say THANKS! And do give Melody your URL if you come back unnamed, especially if she promises to put it on her follow list so the rest of us can find it! Have a great summer.

Brenda Gael Smith said...

Tommy - your blog conveys an enormous sense of fun, hospitality and sisterhood and even some quilts every now and then! Thakn you. Enjoy your new non-blogging routine but I'll keep you on my blog reader in case you decide to return.

Donna said...

Oh I will miss you. I feel like you are a friend to me. I live in Florida and I use to split seasons in Ohio, so I loved reading about your travels. I do understand about being careful what you write. Think about twitter. I love it. (exmrscronin)is my name on twitter.

robinww said...

NOOOOOOOOO! I start my day with your blog every day I'm not at work and I never miss a day checking in. I love your comments on your quilting, your busy life, Bella, the golf outings and shopping. I even got my mom to start reading the blog. I've commented a few times but didn't really think you'd want to hear much from someone you don't know. Of course, I want you to be happy about the blog situation but I'll really miss it and you.

Mary Ann Littlejohn said...

Tommy, I read your blog every day. I'm sorry to say that I am one who probably didn't ever leave a comment. How rude of me?

Reggie said...

Well heck, there you go 23 comments!!! See how you will be missed??? I will not lose you as we speak often......but what about all my material girl fans out there???? Now you can just sit and enjoy yourself in the mornings. Talk to you manana......

Marcia said...

SAY IT AIN'T SO!!!!! Tommy... I marvel at the number of things you fit into a day...and the bond you have with all your friends. And the FOOD...you are amazing. I'll miss checking in everyday.

Diane said...

I will miss your blogging. I love seeing what your working on whether it is cooking or birthday sleep overs or quilts.
You seems like a very fun person. I found your blog from Melody's fibermania blog and have enjoyed getting to know you through your words and pictures.

Kay said...

I love, love, LOVE your blog! I read it daily and I can't believe the energy you have and all of the things you accomplish! I also am a snowbird but I live in Arizona in the winter and the Chicago area in the summer - I love hearing about the things you are doing in Chicago, really enjoyed seeing your childrens' weddings, marvel at all the cooking you do and company you have. You will be sorely missed and I'm very sorry I haven't left comments before. Thanks for all the years of pleasurable reading.

Cindra said...

Aahhhh! The lurkers have come forth. Tommy, I know exactly how you feel and I removed myself from FaceBook and slowed down to almost quitting my blog. I will miss you. You make me laugh and inspire me to be more and do more. I get angry when people get too full of themselves and respond negatively to some of your jokes. You are a part of my daily routine. (If you start somewhere else under the witness protection cover, let me know.)

masshag said...

Another lurker coming out of "lurkdom" to say you will be missed.
I've enjoyed all of your quilting, cooking and general joy of life. Take care, Mikell

Mechelle said...

OHHH - I'm so SAD - but I understand! Where did peoples sense of humor go anyway?? I thought I noticed the tone of your blog change over the last several months. I will miss having coffee with you every morning! (Even if you didn't know you had coffee w/me....)

Linda said...

Lurker here - I've read your blog for years and never commented. I too enjoyed your stories and Bella. I have a Bichon and am a quilter. Will miss my daily Tommy!
Linda

Jean said...

I'm devastated!!! The first thing I do every morning is read your blog. You are completely ruining my routine and old ladies hate to have their routines ruined. I'm somewhat computer illiterate (I know how to turn it on, etc.) so I've never attempted to comment because I didn't think I knew how. I'm now trying out of desperation.

I know about the "F" word and don't mind it at all, because of a conversation I once had with my 17-year old son. I was reprimanding him for the use of the word and he carefully explained to me that it no longer meant what I thought it meant. He went on to tell me that it had become a new slang expression in the English language, and that probably if he asked a girl to "F", she wouldn't even know what he was talking about. So you have my permission to say "Fuck" any old time you want to.

My day won't be the same without your blog!!! Love ya!!!

Jean Ann

Susan Turney said...

Fuck! I look forward to your blog every day! I love your recipes and I love your parties and I love your stories. I always check to see if you've posted and your's is one of about 7 or 8 I don't miss.(I'll go back to the others when I want to spend more time at the computer).
I hope you'll think about it awhile and then come back "in the raw"! If someone doesn't like it they can take you off their list....or post a comment!

Anonymous said...

From the recovery SpikeMuffin says WTF Girl!!?? Get back on that horse and dig your spurs in. If I offend any Peta People STFUp!

Anonymous said...

*A girl just has to do what she wants to do*...I know that is not the real quote but if you feel you must stop, go right ahead.

You will of course, leave a void behind for your daily readers. I for one will miss taking jabs at you and your wonderful quirkey quilts.

As for the profanities and the fat word....I think only Americans and Brits are bothered by those things. I could never understand why the word "fat" has now become a politically incorrect word and the use of 'plus' sizing etc is more acceptable. What the hell is a 'plus' size? If a person is fat, then that is just how it is. I recently read someone's blog where they were completely offended by a sewing presenter at a show demonstration who described a garment for 'fat' women, her blog followers then left comments some of which were this ~ short of saying she stole the 'holy grail'. Why would a fat person not want to be seen as fat when they can't be overlooked?

Anyways, off my ranting. Take care and be happy and PEACE.
I am off to bed and will be miss your post tomorrow.

Anonymous said...

Oh, what the fuck. Am I going to get a good laugh and good ideas from reading a newspaper every morning?!?
Martha

Teresa said...

I am majorly bummed. I know I haven't commented very much. I always have problems with the computer when I try. But I sure have enjoyed your blog and am going to miss it!! People who make negative comments need to get a life. It is your blog and you can say and do anything you want.

Anonymous said...

aaaagggghhhh!! I"m not sure I can accept this. On one level, I totally understand since I have stopped and started a couple times but always go back because I just need to share. I really really hope that you'll take a blogcation and come back and use the f-word whenever you want and all of us will have a smile to start our day. And besides, did you ask Bella's opinion on this? I doubt she wants to retreat into anonymity. S

Margie said...

I read your blog every day. Sorry I havn't commented. I loved lots of things about it but glad you didn't say "fuck" every other word. My husband is an English teacher and says that indicates people that need a vocabulary enrichment course. I will miss you and your quilting and views into your life style.

Natalya Aikens said...

well that's a fucking bummer.....i apologize for not commenting often or hardly at all..but i've been reading all the time and love your humor...hope you'll miss blogging enough to come back soon!

Gayle from MI said...

Sure....I miss one fucking day of reading your blog and this is what happens?

maggie z. said...

oh nooooo, say it ain't so...i love the blog!!

Robbie said...

Yes, do make sure you let us know your new 'blog' site that will be R rated! We'll all just mark the new blog as our favorite!

Anonymous said...

Oh crap. This is bad news. I love your blog.

Cindra said...

R u feeling the love, Tommy?

Anonymous said...

I read your blog every single day and I will miss you. I enjoy hearing about:
* Bella
* Your trips - especially to the Nancy Crow classes.
* Your friends/family and company (and their quilting accomplishments while they visit)
* Your funny golf cart stories
* Your cleaver decorations for parties

I'm a lurker that never comments because I do not want to intrude. But I wanted you to know how much I have enjoyed your blog over the years.

Denise in Sacramento

Anonymous said...

oh for goodness sakes...I go away on vacation and whammo...life as I know it will not be the same. Your blog is how I start my morning (I don't drink coffee--you are the kick that gets me started)!!

Please let me know the URL of the new X rated uncensored blog.

I read your bog daily, but never comment because I thought you didn't want comments (didn't you actually say that once in your blog? if not I apologize)

Barbara

Millie said...

WTF?? You know I use the iPhone for everything so I read your blog but it's a pain to comment on the iPhone screen. Tommy...there will always be malcontents posting their madness, so screw them. You can see from the comments generated that your blog is well read. Your blog impacts people and I will tell you what it has done for me:

1) It got me to lose TWENTY lbs because I saw a picture of me on your blog that was horrible.

2) You've kept me company while recuperating in bed for the past 13 days. I've been reading your blog everyday starting from 2005. I'm up to 2009 so you can't stop now!

3) I felt the same way about people not posting on the group page I created for my nephew. When I announced that I was going to close it I was flooded with requests to leave it open. I did leave it open.

You are who you are and you shouldn't censor yourself. I can handle the 'F' word. Those that cringe should stay away....not you go away.

Where's that silver big with the slot on top? Write down what's bothering you, deposit in the slot and let the pig shit it out. I'M CALLING YOU RIGHT NOW

Millie said...

WTF?? You know I use the iPhone for everything so I read your blog but it's a pain to comment on the iPhone screen. Tommy...there will always be malcontents posting their madness, so screw them. You can see from the comments generated that your blog is well read. Your blog impacts people and I will tell you what it has done for me:

1) It got me to lose TWENTY lbs because I saw a picture of me on your blog that was horrible.

2) You've kept me company while recuperating in bed for the past 13 days. I've been reading your blog everyday starting from 2005. I'm up to 2009 so you can't stop now!

3) I felt the same way about people not posting on the group page I created for my nephew. When I announced that I was going to close it I was flooded with requests to leave it open. I did leave it open.

You are who you are and you shouldn't censor yourself. I can handle the 'F' word. Those that cringe should stay away....not you go away.

Where's that silver big with the slot on top? Write down what's bothering you, deposit in the slot and let the pig shit it out. I'M CALLING YOU RIGHT NOW

Maggie said...

Another lurker here. Your blog is on my "morning coffee" folder that I check first thing every morning. Glad to hear you will continue. There really are lots of us out here that follow what you read - comments or no.

Judy Shamblin said...

I am one of your silent but appreciative followers. I am sorry that I have not spoken up before now to let you know how much I enjoy living through your blog. My habit of a roof over my head and food on the table keep me from being able to play with my art each day. The little glimpse of the colorful life you create inspires me more than anyone will ever know. I love watching Bella go on adventures. My Sweet Princess only wishes she had me at home each day to play with her and be in my studio with her. Tommy the wonderful day to day things you share with us in your blog teach me how to create an artful life for myself and those around me. Thank you for always sharing from your heart. Hootie

Anonymous said...

FUCK FUCK FUCK...GET OVER IT...WENDY O'